I’m aware of what happened to me in terms of experiential learning curves, as far as I understand for what were/are menopausal symptoms, albeit chronic, and yet I landed in hospitals. Sadly this can happen given how little is known about all this. Due to depleted hormone levels, problems can present themselves during peri menopause and menopause. Given the extent to which my hair was falling out, why else would one’s hair fall out to this degree if it were not menopause related?
I became aware that doctors in this country currently receive very little training when it comes to menopause, something of which I was not fully aware, equally I have become aware of the importance of poise and yet lost it in the environments in which I found myself.
I know I was responsible for not having taken better care of myself in the way in which I wished to take care of myself, namely choosing the natural way. I only discovered that a colleague also knew about this work, yet it was never mentioned, it happens, no doubt she was not fully aware of the severity of my symptoms. I had been having homeopathy for symptoms during the course of my training, I eventually chose to stop because I could not see it was helping. I hadn’t explored every option, I didn’t know there were others until I came across the work of a natural menopause expert, which has more than helped, and this certainly isn’t about right doing or wrong doing at all.
With expert help I gradually been trying to restore things, just like we all do. It was absolutely essential to return and restore things, not just to how they had been but in fact better than this. I have been sleeping without interruption, an absolutely massive change to how things had previously been, given that I was still waking up in the middle of the night and not being able to get back to sleep again. My metabolism and digestion also improved.
In the same way, we come to the Alexander Technique when we come to it, it actually makes no difference what age we are, we start where we start and continue on the learning path. Berating ourselves with hindsight for not having come to things in terms of learning sooner is absolutely pointless, instead seeing that taking that first step is indeed a catalyst. It is very much a decision we make ourselves, whether we wish to learn how to improve things for ourselves. It’s also very much worth reminding ourselves of FM Alexander’s words that we cannot know something by an instrument that is wrong, meaning that unless we choose to explore and come to appreciate the significance of improved forward and up head balance and everything else connected with this, we just cannot know about this, even if the reasons why knowing about this are so important, we require the experience of learning what it is means to prevent the opposite of this.
What good does chastising ourselves for not knowing about things when we did? In my my mind it’s far more constructive to keep moving forwards. We can indeed learn from every moment, every circumstance, I would go so far as to say even every breath, we can also remind ourselves that learning isn’t just about getting things right in this respect. I’ve noticed that I’m a slow learner, I usually need to stop to look at what I’m doing more closely before I finally am able to get things right, I’m aware I usually make life more difficult for myself as a result, unhelpful and unconscious postural and co-ordination habits have much to do with all of this. I need to stop and listen very carefully, even then I still get things “wrong” before I get them “right”.s something we impose on ourselves.
Learning Alexander Technique is very much about unlearning how we habitually do things with ourselves, whatever we’re doing, however whilst we’re unlearning our habits, we’re also learning new ones in their place. Observing how we interfere with this and what we can do to prevent this provides us with useful experiences which we then find we can apply. There are no mistakes, there are just paths of further learning, ongoing exploration, consideration, and insight when it comes to stopping
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